Laura Dodson - July 21, 2012
Unclear or have question.... Repeat what they say....so they r not defensive...other person will elaborate what they meant...
Really listen and hear what other person is saying...
How we respond to children's distress.... I can see you are upset... Don't give advise...or immediate response... Don't be full of questions right away.... Or don't have pity, because it victimizes them... Empathy is good to have...
Need upset heard and not have it dismissed....
Emotional management....
Authors:
Unconditional parenting Alfie khon
P.e.t by Thomas Gordon
How to talk so kids will listen....
Robin grille - parenting for a peaceful world
We learn by modeling....
Finding that community that will support you... Really hard to be out there by yourself...people always commenting on your parenting skills, so good to know u have a community... People judging parenting.... Grocery store and your child crying and others judge and look at you.... Good to have community to support you...
Place to acknowledge feelings... Just like we need they need too... Let them be able to feel and not shut them down....allow them to feel and express...
Engage kids in dialogue.... So they can express... Talk openly to them.... Do you have any ideas so you are not irrated and I don't get irrated.... Working on problems... Finding solutions that work for all of us....
Include child in decision making process.... What works for your family may not work for others....
When we generate our own solutions with our kids they work out really well! Be open with your kids instead of making solutions for them... "do you have any ideas?"
Community with alternative choices.... Natural response...
Don't talk when people are upset or in feeling.... Talk later on and open dialogue....
* We are not in control of others feelings... We can't fix it or have solutions... We can just be there with them.... We feel we just want to stop it or fix it, but the people need to move through it...*
Run through my feelings before you can accept anyone to give advice....
Connect to people that aren't verbal.... Put arm or touch them without saying anything... Just need human connection... May cry and never talk about it... All we can do is be there for them... Be that person they feel safe with... They may never articulate... But they know you are there... I am here with you....
Don't push a child who needs you....
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